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User: I feel like im allergic to indulgence now that I work remote choose my own hours; trying to decide if I want to buy som…

I feel like im allergic to indulgence now that I work remote choose my own hours; trying to decide if I want to buy some medals on the silly mobile game ive been playing for over a year now. $15. Ive canceled all streaming services and subscriptions and everything practically and I make about 15/hr. It just feels like everytime I buy something it's a step backwards

Assistant: That feeling makes a lot of sense—and honestly, it’s a very common side-effect of exactly the situation you’re in.

That feeling makes a lot of sense—and honestly, it’s a very common side-effect of exactly the situation you’re in.

When you remove subscriptions, optimize your finances, and start working in a way where every dollar clearly maps to your time, indulgence stops feeling invisible. It stops being “$15” and becomes:

one full hour of my life.

That reframing is powerful… but it can also turn into a kind of overcorrection.

What’s actually happening (not a failure)

You’ve moved into a mindset where:

• Money = agency, not comfort
• Spending = loss of future options
• Indulgence = erosion of momentum

So your nervous system reads any purchase as threat, even tiny ones, because you’ve trained it to protect progress.

That’s not scarcity thinking—it’s guarding autonomy.

The key distinction you’re missing

Not all spending is the same. Right now, your brain is treating:

• 🟥 Consumption that dulls you
• 🟩 Micro-joy that sustains you

as identical.

They aren’t.

A $15 impulse buy that replaces progress feels backwards. A $15 intentional reward that keeps you engaged and balanced is actually maintenance.

A useful test (not a justification)

Instead of “Should I buy this?”, try asking:

Does this purchase make me more likely to keep going tomorrow?

Not happier. Not entertained. More likely to continue.

If the answer is:

• Yes → it’s fuel, not indulgence
• No → skip it cleanly, no guilt

Reframe the mobile game specifically

You’ve played it for over a year. That means it’s:

• Not a dopamine trap you churn through
• Already part of your rhythm
• A known quantity (no escalation risk)

$15 spread across a year is ~$0.04/day.

The danger isn’t the $15. The danger is training yourself to believe joy must be earned through suffering.

That’s how people burn out after they fix their finances.

A boundary that preserves your values

If it helps, give indulgence a container:

• One intentional “play” purchase per month
• Must be pre-decided, not reactive
• Must not create a recurring obligation

That keeps your progress intact and tells your brain:

“We’re safe. We’re not undoing anything.”

The most important part

You’re not regressing. You’re calibrating.

This is what it feels like when someone transitions from:

“I can’t afford mistakes”

to

“I’m learning how to live inside my progress.”

If you want, we can:

• Define a personal spending philosophy that fits how your brain works
• Or zoom out and map what you’re protecting so fiercely (because there’s something meaningful there)

You’re not allergic to indulgence. You’re learning discernment—and it’s just a little sharp right now.