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Assistant: This is a genuinely distressing situation, and your reactions are human and understandable.

This is a genuinely distressing situation, and your reactions are human and understandable. But there are a few things you should stop doing immediately, and several stronger, calmer actions that will protect your daughter better—especially in Singapore’s system.

I’ll break this into (A) what to stop, (B) what to do next (practical + Singapore-specific), and (C) how to support your daughter emotionally right now.

A. What to stop (even though it feels justified)

I’m going to be very direct here, because this matters legally and psychologically.

1. Stop posting indirect stories about the kids

Even without names, continued posting gives them exactly what they want: reaction and access to you.

Worse, it weakens your position:

• It can be framed as adult-to-minor harassment
• It muddies evidence if this escalates legally
• It keeps the conflict “alive” in their minds

Your husband is wrong to call your feelings childish — your feelings are valid — but he is right that posting publicly is not helping your daughter now.

👉 Lock down your personal account immediately:

• Set to private
• Remove followers you don’t personally know
• Stop all indirect references

This is about strategic restraint, not moral defeat.

2. Do NOT confront the parents directly (no “gg to their house”)

In Singapore, this can backfire badly:

• Can be construed as intimidation
• Can escalate into parent-on-parent conflict
• Can complicate police and school handling

You are already on record with the police — do not undermine that.

B. What to do next (effective, Singapore-specific steps)

1. Escalate within the school — formally and in writing

Do not rely on informal “the school is aware”.

Request all of the following, in writing (email to P, VP, DM, FT):

Subject: Urgent: Cyberbullying, Impersonation & Financial Exploitation – P6 Student

Ask for:

• A disciplinary review for: - Cyberbullying - Impersonation (fake accounts) - Continued harassment after warning
• A safety plan for your daughter: - Seating changes - Monitoring during recess - Staff check-ins
• Written confirmation of: - Actions taken - Timeline - Consequences if harassment continues

Schools take things far more seriously when:

• It’s written
• It references ongoing harm
• Police report already exists

2. TikTok: report as a minor safety issue, not just bullying

This is important.

When reporting:

• Select “Harassment involving a minor”
• Attach screenshots
• Reference: - Impersonation - Multiple fake accounts - Ongoing investigation

TikTok is much faster to act when children + impersonation are involved.

If needed, submit multiple reports (not spammy — factual).

3. Police: update, don’t restart

Go back to the IO (or station) and say:

“The harassment has continued despite investigation, with new fake accounts created to taunt and intimidate.”

This can:

• Strengthen the case
• Support a warning to parents
• Create pressure on the school

You are not overreacting. Persistence after warning is a big deal.

4. Financial exploitation angle (this is serious)

The $800 incident is not “kids being kids”.

This can be framed as:

• Coercion
• Exploitation
• Possible theft

If not already documented clearly, document it now:

• Names
• Dates
• Messages
• Who dared who to ask for money

This strengthens both school and police responses.

C. Supporting your daughter right now (most important)

Your daughter is at high risk of internalising shame here — especially being labelled “snitch”.

What to tell her clearly (and repeatedly)

• “You did the right thing.”
• “Telling an adult is not snitching — it’s self-protection.”
• “People who bully often attack the person who stops them.”

Avoid:

• Over-interrogating her
• Replaying details repeatedly
• Letting her overhear adult rage

Practical emotional support

• Daily check-in: one simple question (“How was today from 1–10?”)
• One safe adult in school she can go to anytime
• Normal routines (sports, hobbies, sleep)

If you see:

• Withdrawal
• Nightmares
• Somatic complaints 👉 request a school counsellor referral early, not later.

A hard truth (said gently)

The bullies are not afraid of your anger. They are afraid of:

• Adults who stop reacting publicly
• Institutions acting quietly
• Loss of audience and control

The moment you go silent online and loud through proper channels, the power dynamic shifts.

If you want

I can:

• Draft a calm but firm email to the school
• Help you structure a follow-up police update
• Suggest exact TikTok reporting wording
• Help you decide whether class transfer or mediation is appropriate

You are not failing your child. You are standing at the point where strategy matters more than expression — and you can still win this for her.